13 Tips for Writing Original Wedding Vows:

婚禮誓言的 13 個祕訣

If you’ve decided to stray from tradition and write your own vows, you may be suffering from the worst kind of writer’s block. Standing in front of a crowd is nerve-racking enough, and now you’re required to share your feelings? I mean, this is the person you’re going to spend the rest of your life with. This is the moment you get to profess your love to them in front of your closest family and friends. This may be the biggest day of your entire life. What will you say to seal the deal? What words will make your fiancé cry, laugh, and believe your love is forever? I’m sorry—I’m not being helpful. Here’s the thing: No matter what you say in those few precious minutes, the end result will be the same. You will have made a promise to love and cherish your fiancé forever—and you will be married. That being said, if you want to get it just right…follow my advice.

如果你已經決定要自己寫婚禮誓言,你可能正卡在研讀一些艱澀的文學書,或是正在擔心在眾人面前無法分享自己的心情而傷腦筋中。

這個人是要與你共度後半生的,這時刻是你站在你的愛和他親友面前的,這天可能是你一生中最重要的一天,你要說什麼才能讓一切很美好?什麼樣的字會讓你的另一半感動到哭、笑,然後相信你那強大無比的愛?

喔不好意思,我可能讓你更緊張了。

事情是這樣的,不管你在婚禮上那寶貴的幾分鐘說了什麼,最後的結果都會是一樣的。你會要為了你的愛而做出承諾,然後珍惜你與另一半那永遠的婚姻,但話雖如此,如果你想要把誓言寫好,不妨聽聽我的建議,首先可以參考一些關於愛的詞句,然後再跟著我的13個祕訣一起寫你的結婚誓言。

1. Settle on a format and tone with your fiancé.

You don’t want to follow 2 minutes of jokes from your man with 5 minutes of tear-jerking poetry. Discuss the overall tone you want your words to have, as well as a length you both can handle.

1.確定主軸並主要敘述你與另一半
你不會想要用兩分鐘的笑話搭配你的另一半說了五分鐘催淚的詩句,所以與另一半討論一下大致的感覺,還有討論一下誓言的長度。

2. Reflect on your relationship.

Before you pick up that pen, look back on your relationship. What brought you to this moment? When did you know they were ‘the one?’ When did you first start falling in love? What memories stand out? A bit of reflection can lead to a lot of writing.

2. 回想一下你們的關係
在你動筆之前,試著回想一下你們的關係,為什麼會想要結婚,什麼時候你開始確定他是你的另一半?什麼時候你開始感到愛?
在回想的時候什麼樣的畫面浮現?試著從回想帶著你開始寫誓詞。

3. Determine your definition of “love” and “marriage.”

Everyone has a different image when they picture the perfect marriage. How do you see it? What will your spouse do for you and what will you do for your spouse? Think about the relationships you admire and how you can use them to influence your own. Remember that this is your promise—there’s no wrong answer.

3. 確定你對於“愛”和“婚禮”的定義
每個人對於完美的婚姻都有不同的想法,你怎麼看呢?你的另一半會怎麼做,你又會對另一半做什麼呢?試想一個屬於你的理想婚禮,然後做出承諾。

4. Call out the best in them.

If you’re not sure where to start, why not with compliments? Tell them why you love them, what makes them special, and the qualities they posess that make ‘forever’ possible.

4. 點出優點
如果你不知道要從哪裡開始,何不從誇獎開始?告訴大家為什麼你愛她,為什麼他對你特別?有什麼特質讓你想要永遠的跟他在一起?

5. Think in terms of promises.

Be honest with them—what can you promise them or at least say you’ll strive for? That may be standing by them through thick and thin, remembering to make their coffee in the morning or never to play the song they hate, or to love them even when you may not like them.

5. 做出承諾
誠實地說出你能做出的承諾,或至少說出你可以努力做到的事,可以從一些就在你身邊發生的事情說起,記得幫他泡杯早餐咖啡或是不播放對方討厭的歌,又或是在他做出你不喜歡的事時還會愛著他。

6. Leave out any embarrassing, TMI details.

Remember that you’ll be in front of a crowd—don’t say anything you’ll regret. Leave those TMI details for later.

6. 不要說出會讓人尷尬的話
記得,你在講結婚誓言時你是站在眾人面前,不要說任何你會後悔的話,太多私密細節留著你們以後再說。

7. Don’t let quotes and poems overpower your own meaningful words.

Find one or two that represent your own amazing love and use them as a starting point. Your words will mean far more to your partner than someone else’s.

7. 不要讓愛情詩句佔據你的字句
之所以會要你們先看些愛情詩句是有原因的,但是不要讓他們佔滿你3分鐘的誓言,找出一兩個代表你強大的愛的字句當作引言,你的字對伴侶來說比其他字句都重要。

8. Keep it short and sweet.

2-3 minutes is good length to go for. If you figure out how to say it all in just a few words, that’s fine too.

8. 保持精簡動人
2-3分鐘這誓言剛剛好,如果你知道如何更簡短的表現,那也沒有關係。

9. Remember the letter.

Most couples give each other a wedding gift along with a hand-written letter. If your vows get too lengthy, add some of those wonderful words to your letter. It’s also the place for those TMI details you can’t help but share.

9. 記住你還可以寫信
很多新人會在結婚前給對方禮物並附上手寫的信,如果你的誓言太長,可以留一些寫在信裡,那些較私密的訊息也可以寫在信中。

10. Give yourself time.

A lot of people like to start writing the night before (or even the day of), but if you’re nervous I recommend giving yourself a little more time.

10. 留些時間給自己
很多人喜歡在婚前一晚寫誓言(甚至結婚當天),但是如果你是很緊張的人,我建議你留多一點時間給自己。

11. Practice.

Give yourself some time to practice them too! Say them out loud, please.

11. 練習
給自己一些時間來練習,大聲的練習。

12. Read them to each other beforehand.

This is a tip I like to stress. If you’re concerned you may ugly-cry or get extremely nervous, why not share your promises before the big day? It’ll be just as meaningful, but without all the pressure.

12. 唸給對方聽
我很喜歡分享這個小秘訣,如果你擔心結婚當天聽到誓言會讓自己哭得很醜,或是怕當天會太緊張,為什麼不先與你的另一半在婚禮節先分享誓言?一樣會會很有意義,只是少了那些壓力。

13. Save a copy.

You’ll thank me later.

13. 留下備份
你會感謝我的。

source: wedding Shoppe Inc